Domestic Violence

Many of the cases I cover include violence that likely occurred between intimate partners. The more I learn about these situations, the more I realize we need to talk more about these instances, and help people get away from them.

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, on average 20 people are physically abused by an intimate partner EVERY MINUTE. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have experienced this. Escaping these situations isn't as simple as just walking out a door. The risk of violence actually rises when people try to get out of situations like this. If you are in a situation like this, please watch the video below, seek more information, help and additional resources to put a team and plan together, and get out. You can do this. You are worth it. Don't believe any story saying that you don't deserve better.

Please visit for more information and to find people that will be on your side, and give you information and help to make your escape and start your new life.

If you are not positive you are in a domestic violence situation, here are some warning signs noted at

Red flags include:

  • fear of your partner
  • missing work or school
  • personality changes
  • low self-esteem
  • trouble sleeping
  • anxiety about pleasing your partner

Warning signs in your partner include:

  • monitoring you on social media
  • keeping you from seeing friends and family
  • blaming you and others for problems in their life
  • angry outbursts, punching walls, or destroying your property
  • tracking your spending or withholding money
  • controlling who you talk to, what you wear, or where you go
  • criticizing, belittling, or embarrassing you in front of others
  • taking away your keys or preventing you from leaving
  • restraining, slapping, or physically hurting you
  • threatening self-harm or suicide if you try to leave

Learn more information from these reputable sources:

In honor of the Case Cracked episode about Aroha Kerehoma here are links for help in New Zealand (thank you NZ Herald):